Same. I like the little nipple pillow. Makes it so it is so much less painful when it is cold.

The less I have to worry about the essentials, the happier I am. The essentials being…

• Personal safety

• Access to clean water and food

• Access to healthcare

• Access to housing that is adequate/does not make me sick

I still have to worry about all of the above a moderate amount, so it makes it a lot harder to deal with anything that makes me happy. If I hate my job, all of the above get a lot harder to secure, so I would need to tread carefully. My previous housing situation made me extremely sick, so I had to pay a lot more to find something that didn’t hurt me. (And therefore made it so I have to put off essential medical procedures.)

It’s not all bad, but I would imagine removing those barriers would lead me to the freedom to make decisions that make me happier.

Not at all. My changes are trash and this button reflects that.

One thing that would make a creep a creep is a power imbalance of some sort. For this to exist if we’re only considering the age gap between adults, is if one adult is so young they’re being taken advantage of.

A 20 year age gap where the younger is early 20’s is creepy, because the younger’s lack of experience makes them vulnerable. A 20 year age gap where the younger is in their 30’s or beyond isn’t, because the younger likely has the maturity to avoid being taken advantage of.

Are there any other factors that would make this creepy, like you have influence over this person’s career? If not, then no worries! Enjoy dating.