I got divorced like 5 months ago after a 9 years with this girl who cheated on me, emotionally abused me, etc etc

I’ve been suicidal since the split, getting worse by the day still, and literally nobody ever asked if I was OK, aside from my mom. Even when I begged close friends for support they basically just ghosted me. My ex is surrounded by support, from the same people who I thought were my best friends.

Do I just have shitty people around me or is this just what guys deal with? The attitude towards me is just “get over it”. I’ve lost almost everyone I’m close to because of this and I’m starting to think there might actually be one viable option of getting over it because existing is simply torture. All of 2025 felt like just a bad dream but it’s unfortunately real.

Edit: Yes I have a counselor - a very good one I see weekly.

  • andrewta@lemmy.world
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    22 days ago

    First : sorry you are going through this.

    Second : yes most guys won’t get the support they need. It sucks.

    Third : yes you have shitty people around you

    The people who you thought were your friends aren’t. Forget about them. Forget they exist. They aren’t worth your time.

    Figure out what you like to do and join a club or group and move forward. Not just get over it. In that new group look for support there. Look for better friends there.