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Cake day: October 3rd, 2023

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  • hmm, i do wonder which causes which. Depression makes you prone to addictions as you seek anything to give you the happy chemicals. But constant social media exposure is rather harmful when you just take it all in, and that can cause depression Especially if you don’t block keywords for war coverages and politics.

    i stand firm in my opinion that human brains are straight up not designed to take in a constant stream of bad news from around the world, which sucks because we are designed to focus on negatives for our survival. Memories of accidents and deaths take priority over nice memories so that we can avoid dangers better. from evolution’s point of view you being happy is an afterthought, you just need to live long enough to fuck. and across history it worked! we never had to distinguish between dangers nearby and dangers so far away it literally does not matter for you, as all news were brought by foot or with an otherwise huge time delay - they were either nearby or already history, and only one or two at a time. well, never… until today, and our neuroplasticity doesn’t seem to be enough to counter this, and evolution doesn’t work fast enough to fix this

    Could also be a vicious cycle where if you trip and fall once both will create a negative synergy where you try to drown your sorrows in addictive doomscrolling, which only makes you worse


  • is it a fun fact that impacts nothing? i’ll accept it as fact immediately and without question

    is it a fact that has some weight to it? i’ll probably double check and if i find a reliable source that also claims it to be fact i’ll accept it (if i’m reading about it from a reliable source i will accept it immediately)

    is it a fact that contradicts my current beliefs/understanding of the world? i’ll do some research on it, check if there’s any recent articles like “that thing you thought was right? is not!”, and depending on the nature of the fact think about why it’s been debunked and how that changed my perception on the world


  • if they can’t do it on their own, and also assuming their aversion to introspection extends to psychologists too… well, if they ever express a desire to try psychadelics do encourage them. if there’s one thing that can force you to look in, it’s that. but let me reiterate - encourage them if they independently come up with the idea, don’t drug them (obviously), don’t push them towards it, make sure they are able to give informed consent to trying


  • i accidentally picked the gayest high school to go to and even coming out as trans in my last year didn’t cause me any troubles. even the old teachers who never saw a trans person (that they knew was trans) before me did their best to respect my pronouns and identity without judgement. and all that in Poland, a country not exactly famous for being inclusive.

    but i got insanely lucky, school can be tough. my heart goes all to those who’s joy of learning got dulled by others


  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldPotter!
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    7 days ago

    i think the americans are trying to make a new series? idk i saw some posts how all actors are hot now and how Snape is played by a black actor. which- why the fuck would you pick the most sketch of the main cast characters to be a POC, literally pick anyone else, hell make Harry black, or Hermione. why is the only bad character (up until the last idk 30min of the series runtime) black. this is not a diversity win, americans




  • fascinating how far we’ve gotten in the science of abusing every aspect of human psychology

    there’s so, so many ways to influence others

    recently i’ve been binging some true crime, two videos by two different youtubers, same topic. A mother murdered by her adopted teen son

    • video 1: the mother is presented as a flawed saint, not perfect but with a big heart. the teen is presented as a sociopathic monster, troubled, ungrateful, heartless. the second to last fight he broke her arm. the last fight he killed her. when he spoke of how his mother abused him the youtube comments sang “what a monster, to try to slander his mother after he killed her”

    • video 2: a few more details appear, the focus shifts towards the mother. she once had two adopted sons, the second she adopted so “[her son] can experience having a sibling”, some time later CPS had to intervene as the second kid had bars in his windows and a bucket for a toilet. he was deemed troubled and ultimately ran away from home. she had a tendency to fight with her remaining son, degrade him on the basis of his race “if i hadn’t adopted you, you’d be standing on the border with the rest of those people” (she might’ve said “idiots” but i can’t be bothered to check). she felt like her teenage son owed her money for phone bills. the narrator here goes into detail how antisocial personality disorders can be caused by both genetic and environmental factors, they can be learnt behaviours. the remaining son often left home and lived with others after he fought with his mother, mostly about money. here the fact he broke her arm in a fight is ommited, just mentions how he lived with another person and thought long if he should come back. he’s presented as a troubled teen abused by his mother who taught him heartlessness and who ultimately snapped and killed her. the youtube comments sang “what a terrible woman, how could she treat him like that”

    same situation, two videos giving you the “correct” interpretation of the events. if i hadn’t accidentally found the other one i wouldn’t even have known there was more to the story, it seemed very matter of fact, very objective, just reporting on what happened & the context that caused it.

    it’s really that simple, all it takes is to pick the facts that suit your narrative and present them, you’re not really lying that way, but who would consider it truth either

    and that’s one tactic amongst many



  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldStress
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    10 days ago

    pre-op trans men often wear binders, those, though helpful in relieving dysphoria, compress your chest and make it harder to breathe

    (or the other thingy the other person said, idk i never left my room without a binder, and even that was 6 years ago already)










  • shneancy@lemmy.worldtomemes@lemmy.worldDeadlines
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    hi that’s me, i was one of the many students. usually at least 30min before though as we often got warned that the submission servers could be slowed down around the deadline itself so i didn’t want to risk it

    why? adhd. i am close to incapable of starting a task if it’s not urgent. it’s not fun but forcing my brain to not do that is actual hell