Sounds like you are dealing with anxiety? I had a similar phase. After getting my license at 18 I did not drive for a very long time, because I did not have the money for a car. Felt very inconfident and even cried at the thought of getting a car, even if it was necessary. It took me a while to accustomise to the thought, then started driving with my husband on my side. Asking a lot of questions about situations in which I was unsure and warming up to the idea of driving regulary. And now it works!

About the accident part: Had one when my license was fresh, while parking with my fathers car. It’s normal. My husband had three accidents after getting his first car, he was such a chaotic driver. I think the most ridiculous one was when he was stressed and wanted to park on a curb. But he was way too fast and the car of course took damage.

So maybe take a small break from driving and accept your learning curve :) No one is born as an expert driver!

I would argue that this can be any acitivty which can be done in a group setting and which you enjoy. Maybe check out urban gardening? They sometimes acommodate to people with limited Mobility.

I guess for me there are two festivals I am looking forward to. Also…saving. My cat got really sick last winter, which did cost me a lot and now I am trying to build up my savings again. I also hope that he will pass smoothly, unfortunately the latest diagnosis for him was dire.

I would also throw Angelspit into this

I second hotpot, it’s not only fun, but also healthy.

Exactly. For me it was relatively clear the older I got, as my father had to give me pocket money and pay for my extracuricullars on top of child support. I was not eating much (smallish, lean, not really sport oriented) and was getting some new clothes maybe twice a year, one time mostly as part of my birthday present.

Bonus points for casually mentioning your pace or VO2_max.

Ah sorry, this was an phrasing error on my side. I meant child Support! Will correct that.

Actually the plan for giving me the house included that she would move out. But she wanted to be imprecise in how I/We would pay her back for the amount she already payed for the house. Switched back and forth inbetween money and/or getting to live with us sooner or later (so basically what you say). She also did not say how much money we would then owe her and wanted to let that open specifically, which could basically result in us paying the left amount (which we should have done in her name, she wanted us to pay HER the amount every month so that then she would pay the bank) plus “rent” to her endlessly.

She somehow managed to keep the house, but struggles to this day with payments. Does not want to move in a flat, because the house has more room for possibilities and a garden. Also says I should get the house someday but it is unclear when or how this should take place. She tried to make a deal with me and my boyfriend (now husband) a while ago, but the terms on her side werde very loosley written out and had too much room for malicious intent in the long run. Also the payments are very high, because she made a bad deal in regards of the interest rates, so me and my husband also would struggle financially and we do not want a house this bad.

Actually this question comes in handy for me. I really need to acknowledge my efforts more. So let’s see:

• Called in sick today. Did not risk that for more than a year, because of anxiety to loose my job. Acknowledged today that atm I need this physically and mentally, could literally not work because of exhaustion.
• Made some really nice progress in therapy in the last few months.
• Even if I am under (in my eyes) a lot of pressure I march on.
• Other than work I take mostly good care of my health.

My mother telling me I should not think that she makes any money with me. (Backstory: Was living with her, dad paid alimony child support). I was baffled, because even when I lowkey suspected that, it was not even a relevant thing for our conversation at this time.

A few years later, when I wanted to move out for studying it was suddendly a problem, because she could not make the full payments for her house without the alimony child supprt from my dad. So I stayed.

Some more years down the line I finally wanted to move out, as I had a full time job in sight and wanted to live with my boyfriend. I was in my mid-twenties. Basically the conversation was the same as before, she could not pay for her house without me. She could not answer my question how she thought this would work out. Was she expecting me to live with her until she paid for the house? Because this would be up until my forties, maybe longer. The house is not big enough for two families, so it was never an option for me and my bf to move in. Of course I moved out.