I came here to vent; I’m sick of being told that I’m non-confrontational and I avoid confrontation, I don’t. I avoid confrontation with you because you need to be correct so I’d rather not waste time by arguing with you and instead just find a way to solve the problem in which you’re correct and the problem is solved. And it’s objectively wrong to say about me that I avoid confrontation because I do have regular confrontation with specific people who do end it.
But if you think conflict builds character you’re not going to get any of that character building with me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ sorry nobody owes it you which means no one owes you a confrontation which means I’m not avoiding confrontation.
Late twenties and early thirties in this case. I told him on multiple occasions that what he was doing wasn’t ok and why. Unfortunately he doggedly refused to introspect and instead put the responsibility for his problems on everyone but himself. (Usually in the form of toddler tantrums, it was fucking exhausting.)
You’re absolutely right by the way, sometimes people are like this due to immaturity and they’re open to correcting their behaviour with honest feedback and introspection. Unfortunately this wasn’t one of those cases, so I ended up cutting ties.
I have a feeling OP experienced something similar. They just end up not engaging with people like this entirely. And honestly, good for them.